From the experts: divorce lawyers. (The headline is The 1 Thing Divorce Lawyers (Almost) Never Do In Their Marriages, but that’s misleading: it’s one thing from each of several lawyers.)
- They don’t check their partner’s phone. “If you want a lasting marriage, you need to have trust.”
- They don’t make jokes or empty threats about divorce. Yeesh.
- They don’t blame their partner. In a healthy dynamic, both partners can recognize their mistakes and each take accountability for their part, rather than wasting time pointing fingers at each other.
- They don’t hide their finances. If someone is being cagey or withholding when it comes to money, it doesn’t bode well for the future of the relationship.
- They don’t argue over text or email. Digital communication “can easily be misconstrued, especially in tone.”
- They don’t say things they can’t take back. “Arguments should come from a solution-oriented place.”
- They don’t stop their partner from pursuing their own hobbies and friendships. “Independence enhances a marriage.”
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/divorce-lawyers-never-do-marriage_l_649c78d0e4b0ea75fd3b35a3.
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